the big leap by gay hendricks
“Are you willing to take the Big Leap to your ultimate level of success in love, money, and creative contribution?”
~ Gay Hendricks from The Big Leap
OUR THERMOSTATS ARE SET TOO LOW
“Each of us has an inner thermostat setting that determines how much love, success, and creativity we allow ourselves to enjoy. When we exceed our inner thermostat setting, we will often do something to sabotage ourselves, causing us to drop back into the old, familiar zone where we feel secure…
Unfortunately, our thermostat setting usually gets programmed in early childhood, before we can think for ourselves. Once programmed, our Upper Limit thermostat setting holds us back from enjoying all the love, financial abundance, and creativity that’s rightfully ours. It keeps us in our Zone of Competence or at best our Zone of Excellence. It prevents us from living in the ultimate destination of the journey—our Zone of Genius.”
“A hex is often put on gifted and talented people early in life. The hex causes them to feel bad when they shine especially brightly.”
~ Gay Hendricks
i can be awesome. i will encourage my kids to be awesome. don’t hold back cuz other kids are not awesome. that’s sucks. i like being awesome.
WAVING TO OUR FEARS
“Unless you’re very lucky or very enlightened, you’re likely to hear those nattering voices and feel those nagging fears within you. They’re part of the deal. I won’t try to talk you out of them, and you shouldn’t try to talk yourself out of them, either. Just notice the voices and feel the fears. That’s all you need to do with them. You don’t need to rid yourself of them. Where would they go, anyway? All you need to do is acknowledge them, wave to them, let them know you’re aware of them. Then get busy learning to live in your Zone of Genius.”
this is pic of natalie tran. i love her youtube. community channel. hilarious. she always starts her vids with a wave and a ‘hi’. the ‘hi’ is THE best part of the video. it makes me smile. i would love it if people knew my wave and ‘hi’. that would be awesome. just wave ‘hi’ to your fears. awesome.
BREATHE INTO YOUR FEAR
“There’s only one way to get through the fog of fear, and that’s to transform it into the clarity of exhilaration. One of the greatest pieces of wisdom I’ve ever heard comes from Fritz Perls, MD, the psychiatrist and founder of Gestalt therapy. He said, ‘Fear is excitement without the breath.’ Here’s what this intriguing statement means: the very same mechanisms that produce excitement also produce fear, and any fear can be transformed into excitement by breathing fully with it. On the other hand, excitement turns into fear quickly if you hold your breath. When scared, most of us have a tendency to try to get rid of the feeling. We think we can get rid of it by denying or ignoring it, and we use holding our breath as a physical tool of denial.”
triathlons are my fear and my thrill. at the start of each race, i am afraid. then i dive in, and i’m thrilled. at the top of a mountain descent on my bike, i’m afraid. then, i roll down, and i’m thrilled. it’s excitement.
SWEATY TEN-MINUTE CONVERSATIONS
“Behind every communication problem is a sweaty ten-minute conversation you don’t want to have. However, the moment you work up the courage to have it, you collect an instant reward in relief as well as open up a fl ow of communication that will allow you to resolve the situation.”
sweating conversations remind me of job interviews. i used to be sweaty and afraid. now i don’t mind interviews. i’m comfortable being me. if they like me then awesome. if they don’t, then awesome.
“Worrying is usually a sign that we’re Upper-Limiting. It is usually not a sign that we’re thinking about something useful. The crucial sign that we’re worrying unnecessarily is when we’re worrying about something we have no control over. Worrying is useful only if it concerns a topic we can actually do something about, and if it leads to our taking positive action right away. All other worry is just Upper Limit noise, designed by our unconscious to keep us safely within our Zone of Excellence or Zone of Competence.”
worry is a big waste of time and energy. move on.